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The real test of your patience

It’s rightly said that when you cry in happiness it gives you so much satisfaction which you could otherwise never achieve.

Smile cannot be purchased. It cannot be rather borrowed just like you borrow money, cell phone, vehicle, from your friends.
Smile and happiness cannot be snatched or stolen ……. and even if one tries to commit such crimes he cannot have it for his own use, indeed it will remain defunct for him.

And the real smile and happiness is realized only when you gain something after it was once lost.
That moment should be captured for a life time. ….… USING CAMCORDERS OFCOURSE !!!

Same is the case when you find someone after having him lost. It’s a law of nature….that you realize the importance only when things are missing from your life. When we fight over small issues we don’t realize what we are speaking out, that might hurt the other person, but at the same time when we receive harshness from him/her we save it in our memories just like a backup of our files…..and we keep memorizing it till the end. Again ….here the human tendency …..not to admit the mistakes.

But let me tell you….that you actually want to admit mistakes… infact, you already have…but you don’t have the guts to speak out. And you want the other person to become a mind reader who can understand what you are going through.
And in the due course things become much more complicated instead of getting resolved.

Its true that after a big tussle of harsh conversations ……. when things go wrong in every way….one should set back and leave the things for time…. so that when mind changes your thoughts will definitely change. But this is transient….you cannot leave it for long for destiny and all that.
Think of a pleasant mood when you are fresh enough and confident that “yes today I am going to make things perfect for us” and approach your friend with the same zeal. Don’t over react or panic just be the real you and see if the things turn the way you wanted.
Even if you don’t get a response for the first time give it a try if there is any sign of acceptance from the other side… at times there i s an immense love hidden behind those scoldings and silence perhaps…………. never ignore it !

This is the real test of your patience indeed !!!

And it is better to say sorry for all those things that you have done or not done, forget about the list but at that time just admit because your admittance can provide you your admit card for an entry into someone’s heart.

It’s not that difficult try it with creative ideas. Do all those stupid things but with sincerity.
It’s just as simple as it is…. that you have to realize that people expect you to ask them for their hand but don’t want to say it !!! Again a strange human behaviour ….

It gives a life like feeling when you achieve this way…..its more than anything for you. At the same time it makes you realize that how much you need someone to understand you…..

 

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Exclusive Interview

Looking beyond your own vision seems to be very easy for some,but it is the toughest task. You can become an encyclopedia for this world one day by imbibing a huge stock of knowledge and wisdom. You can become a learned personality and an example for the others,undoubtedly. But who will judge that you have met yourself thoroughly,completely and perfectly,though quite often?

               So let us give a day, a week or a few moments to an exclusive interview ,which is not with any celebrity,a friend,or rather any known and unknown figure, but with “YOU”. The conversation will take place between just two of you……….

  1. The first one is you,whom the world knows….
  2. The second is you, whom nobody knows……

Your objective of the interview is simply to explore yourself vividly, fearlessly and comprehensively.

We all are running just like anything in this world. Some have their aims while the others are just moving on,being ignorant . after doing a lot of hard work , putting in so much of efforts , even after getting appraisals and awards and recognition , we feel some unsatisfaction, as if this was not we were wanting.

And that is why people feel lonely,depressed,sentimental , even after reaching the Everest of success in their life. And we all know that if one cannot make himself/herself happy, his/her surroundings cannot be happier. God has given us these sense organs for what? So that when we smile ,the others might feel happy after looking at us, if we sing melodiously, the voice can reach millions to provoke their souls for harmony. And for all this we should understand the chemistry,physics ,biology and psychology of our self.

Spare some time for yourself and talk to yourself,whether in front of a mirror,while watering the plants,meditation,morning walk, or any time you feel you are with yourself. But do this. Just as if you were asked to take a personal interview of someone , today you have to be face to face with yourself. Quickly go through what all you have achieved till now, with how much effort, under what circumstances and pressures, and what all have you sacrificed or devoted in fulfilling you desires. While this movie goes on in front of you, try to recollect what you want now from life? Are you not happy, it is said that when you are actually happy and contented in your life, you become an innocent child, you behave carefree, like a freebie, and that time you are in your best mood. You also do certain mistakes nut that is for fun. Is it not true??? This is the best way to judge yourself.

                     But if you have lost all such joys in your life and still people see you as successful then you are lying to yourself actually.

Find out all that you are missing ,and feel like doing today.After doing anything just talk to yourself you are happy with it. Is it the best of you?

Now analyze you self if you have successfully interviewed yourself. Work on the flaws to improve it and make it your routine habit to judge yourself. And it will somehow broaden your vision towards a better understanding of your life.

 

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THE SILENCE

The silence between you and me …….it seems to me like the day and the night.

Both are ought to take place but not together. Still there is a point when one has to disappear and the other has to rise. And that’s the most beautiful moment above all. You and me seems to be two yet single entity. I am silent here and you are quiet there, still the flow between us is continuous ,no one can prohibit. And that flow is of emotions deep rooted within our hearts. My day begins with your thought my night approaches with your talks(imaginary) and still the world says “ I am alone”. Because it is the language beyond them. I am shattered without you, hopeless without you, and complete just with you…because I am living for you.

 

These are the lines which become a part of most of us at some point of our life. And we don’t realize that how much time we have lost in maintaining this silence and that to knowingly or perhaps unknowingly. The doors of approaches have been closed by us only and still a window of hope we all want to remain open so that we keep peeping out ….but dare not open the door. But why this all ? why to give so much pain to our self?

There is a lot to do in this life and its full of energy, we just cannot deny this fact. There are some anomalies everywhere because there has to be a corner for improvement . and it is to be mentioned here that improvement is possible only when there are certain anomalies. So why not to accept them?

Time heals every wound. So let the time heal and patch up your flaws and accept the improvements rather than linger it on for perfections. Life has to be lived up with joy and enthusiasm because you never know what is its limitation time. And the moments are like seasonal changes so try to adjust yourself accordingly. But don’t wait too long for it. Just go on to approach.

  Because it is better to have a company and adjust than to be stagnant and alone.

     It’s better to be in an imperfect company than to be perfect but alone.

 

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THE TWO…….

The world is made up of two most beautiful things – the man and the woman.

The two are complementary and we cannot deny the fact. If one is smiling the other is the need of the time to praise that smile….and this goes on.
                                        We most often talk about the male dominant society and it is a cup of tea of every country I suppose. Woman are secondary , I am not saying this but I have heard this a number of times. Many of you must have, too. But what is that deliberate need to use the word “dominant” here when both are the two sides of a coin…. ?
                                         Can any man on this world think of living on a planet that is devoid of a female or the vice-versa? Whether in any relationship , both are mandatory for the existence of life on this earth. The elite class knows this quite well and among them also I am not that sure if they do really. But the others who are highly superstitious or orthodox that they have just created a huge valley between the two genders. And to the worse of this situation some people are trying to widen this gap for their own causes which I think don’t have any relevance to reality.
                                                      This is the mirror image of the world today. No doubt woman have progressed a lot by now but still in books, on the internet, in common jargon as well as the deep rooted ideologies it still persists
“ MALE dominant society” or “ Woman are secondary” . But why ???????????

                                             Now coming to another interesting psychology of we humans only. When a boy grows up ,becomes mature enough to understand his persona and the outer world, he feels a need to have some one for whom he feels something different ,a soft corner in his heart. Actually he wants a beautiful young, charming “girl” in his life and he so desperately waits for her. It is the dream of most of the young boys at this age. They have a lot of respect , love ,care for that female section of the society , and it is the same gender for whom they are even ready to fight with their friends or family. Because she is their ultimate desire, reasons may be any.
But when these people get married and have their first child as a “girl” they feel as if they have been cursed. They were waiting for a baby boy who could be their supporter in future etc.I am not saying this is the case with ever one but yes it is prevalent in the society in major count.

                                                   So why is this big difference in mentality for the same gender at different situations? Can we spare a few second in our life to give a thought to this difference?

                                                        Why can’t we understand that the two genders are not for debate and discussions they are for making this world a heaven a place where we all can live carefree in the arms of the nature?

 

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